{"id":3809,"date":"2013-03-01T18:38:51","date_gmt":"2013-03-01T18:38:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/seksologu.com\/index\/?p=3809"},"modified":"2013-03-01T18:38:51","modified_gmt":"2013-03-01T18:38:51","slug":"seksi-per-nje-nate","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/seksi-per-nje-nate\/","title":{"rendered":"Seksi p\u00ebr nj\u00eb nat\u00eb"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>PYETJE:<\/strong>
\nDoktor,
\nPara pak jav\u00ebve u putha me disa djem t\u00eb rinj n\u00eb nj\u00eb klub. Ndjeva se nuk isha e interesuar t\u00eb flirtoja ose t\u00eb bisedoja me ta, por nxitimthi, t\u00eb takoja ndonj\u00ebrin prej tyre. K\u00ebt\u00eb fundjav\u00eb, b\u00ebra seks me nj\u00ebrin prej tyre. Nuk di t\u00eb them pse e b\u00ebra k\u00ebt\u00eb. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb i ri nga un\u00eb dhe me t\u00eb nuk kemi asgj\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt. Kjo gj\u00eb m\u00eb shqet\u00ebson dhe kam frik\u00eb se nuk do ta kontrolloj dot d\u00ebshir\u00ebn p\u00ebr seks. Ndjehem e zhvler\u00ebsuar dhe kam humbur respektin p\u00ebr veten.
\nSi ta kuptoj shkakun e k\u00ebsaj sjelljeje dhe si ta ndaloj p\u00ebrparimin e k\u00ebsaj marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieje?<\/p>\n

P\u00cbRGJIGJE:<\/strong>
\nKa disa arsye, q\u00eb puthjet e rast\u00ebsishme n\u00eb nj\u00eb bar, ose marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie p\u00ebr nj\u00eb nat\u00eb, jan\u00eb plot k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi p\u00ebr disa, dhe nuk ngjallin asnj\u00eb interes p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00eb. N\u00eb momente t\u00eb ndryshme t\u00eb jet\u00ebs, shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz, ndjejn\u00eb nevoj\u00ebn p\u00ebr marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie rast\u00ebsore. Me siguri,edhe ju do t\u00eb keni qen\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb situat\u00eb t\u00eb caktuar, q\u00eb nxituat t\u00eb takoheni me nj\u00eb djal\u00eb t\u00eb ri.
\nM\u00eb lejo t\u00eb b\u00ebj dy pyetje:
\n\u00b7 A je e m\u00ebrzitur me rrethin social q\u00eb ke?
\n\u00b7 A u ndjeve mir\u00eb kur e njohe, e takove dhe e puthe k\u00ebt\u00eb djal\u00eb?
\nK\u00ebto jan\u00eb ndjenja q\u00eb ia vlejn\u00eb t\u2019i kesh, sepse p\u00ebrmes tyre do t\u00eb zbulosh disa gj\u00ebra t\u00eb reja lidhur me veten dhe do t\u00eb kuptosh p\u00ebr gjith\u00e7ka tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb marr\u00ebsh nga jeta.
\nNga pyetja jote kuptohet se je e shqet\u00ebsuar nga shpejt\u00ebsia me t\u00eb cil\u00ebn ndodh\u00ebn k\u00ebto gj\u00ebra n\u00eb klub. Sjellja juaj tregon se ka di\u00e7ka q\u00eb duhet ndryshuar n\u00eb sjelljet t\u00ebnde. Ti nuk e thua, por mund t\u00eb kesh qen\u00eb n\u00ebn efektin e alkoolit, ose t\u00eb ndonj\u00eb substance tjet\u00ebr n\u00eb k\u00ebto jav\u00ebt e fundit. Alkooli dhe drogat mund t\u00eb ken\u00eb qen\u00eb shkak p\u00ebr veprimet e tua t\u00eb nxituara. Kjo marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie dhe t\u00ebrheqja ndaj t\u00eb panjohurve, ndodhin kur do t\u00eb leht\u00ebsosh vuajtjen e nj\u00eb zemre t\u00eb thyer. K\u00ebto lloj marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniesh ndodhin dhe jan\u00eb t\u00eb vlefshme. Shpesh ato ndihmojn\u00eb t\u00eb rritin vet\u00eb-besimin, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht, kur zemra \u00ebsht\u00eb e l\u00ebnduar. Dua t\u00eb t\u00eb them, po qe se gjen nw veten t\u00ebnde arsye p\u00ebr k\u00ebto marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie, mos e ul vler\u00ebsimin dhe respektin p\u00ebr veten.
\nJu jeni e shqet\u00ebsuar p\u00ebr nxitimin e fundit q\u00eb flak\u00ebroi n\u00eb bar. Eksploro sjelljet dhe ndjenjat e tua, dhe do t\u00eb kuptosh se ka di\u00e7ka q\u00eb duhet ta ndryshosh. Ka mund\u00ebsi q\u00eb kesh p\u00ebrdorur alkool ose substanca t\u00eb tjera k\u00ebto jav\u00ebt e fundit dhe kjo mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb kontribuar n\u00eb k\u00ebto veprime. Nj\u00eb dashuri e humbur dhe ndjenja e vetmis\u00eb jan\u00eb arsye q\u00eb detyroj\u00eb p\u00ebr marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb tilla.
\nKonsideroje gj\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb dhe t\u00eb vlefshme at\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb ndodhi n\u00eb bar, ajo ndihmon t\u00eb rritet vet\u00eb-besimi. P\u00ebr tu ndjer\u00eb mir\u00eb fizikisht dhe psikologjikisht me veten ka r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi vet\u00eb-vler\u00ebsimi dhe vet\u00eb-respekti i sh\u00ebndetsh\u00ebm. T\u00eb ndjehesh mir\u00eb me veten, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb q\u00eb vjen nga shum\u00eb burime, por m\u00eb me r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi \u00ebsht\u00eb burimi i brendsh\u00ebm, q\u00eb vjen nga brenda vetes. Prishja e vet\u00eb-vler\u00ebsimit, ose mungesa e tij e plot\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb gj\u00eb shum\u00eb e komplikuar dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb ta arrish p\u00ebrs\u00ebri kur e humbet nj\u00ebher\u00eb. Vet\u00eb-vler\u00ebsimi dhe vet\u00eb-respekti ndihmojn\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebni zgjedhjet m\u00eb t\u00eb mira n\u00eb jet\u00eb. Ato ndihmojn\u00eb t\u00eb zgjidhni personin me t\u00eb cilin do t\u00eb p\u00ebrfshiheni n\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie. Ato rritin aft\u00ebsin\u00eb p\u00ebr ndryshuar ato gj\u00ebra q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb ndryshoni.
\nN\u00eb qoft\u00eb se e ndjen se sjellja jote e jav\u00ebve t\u00eb fundit nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb normale dhe shqet\u00ebsohesh sepse ke d\u00ebmtuar dinjitetin t\u00ebnd, ti b\u00ebn mir\u00eb ta shikosh t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn n\u00eb sy dhe t\u00eb k\u00ebrkosh zgjidhjet e mundshme. Vler\u00ebso mir\u00eb hapat q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb hedh\u00ebsh pas k\u00ebsaj.
\nNevoja p\u00ebr v\u00ebmendje seksuale \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb gj\u00eb normale p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb, por, n\u00eb qoft\u00eb se ndjeni q\u00eb zgjedhja ose sjellja juaj u ka dal\u00eb nga dora, at\u00ebher\u00eb, k\u00ebrkoni p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb ndodh brenda jush n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb moment, dhe mundohuni t\u2019i rregulloni ato. P\u00ebrshtatuni me ndryshimet dhe streset q\u00eb u kan\u00eb ndodhur koh\u00ebt e fundit. V\u00ebshtir\u00ebsit\u00eb e shkoll\u00ebs dhe stresi q\u00eb ato shkaktojn\u00eb, kur k\u00ebrkoni pun\u00eb dhe nuk e gjeni at\u00eb p\u00ebr koh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb, kur ke v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi dhe probleme n\u00eb familje, kur d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb hakmerresh ndaj nj\u00eb bashk\u00ebshorti ose dashnori q\u00eb t\u00eb ka tradhtuar, kur je e sapo divorcuar e shum\u00eb t\u00eb tjera si k\u00ebto, jan\u00eb situata q\u00eb \u00e7do njeri mund t\u2019i provoj\u00eb n\u00eb momente t\u00eb caktuara t\u00eb jet\u00ebs, por qe kan\u00eb pasoja n\u00eb sjelljen e tij.
\nP\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb pjes\u00eb t\u00eb pyetjes t\u00ebnde, un\u00eb nuk besoj se jam personi i p\u00ebrshtatsh\u00ebm. Nj\u00eb psikolog do t\u00eb ishte i duhuri. N\u00eb vart\u00ebsi t\u00eb nivelit t\u00eb shqet\u00ebsimit q\u00eb ke, ose t\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00ebs q\u00eb ke p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndryshuar sjelljen, do t\u00eb ishte e vlefshme nj\u00eb bised\u00eb me nj\u00eb k\u00ebshillues. Provo t\u00eb q\u00ebndrosh p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb pran\u00eb nj\u00eb shoqes, q\u00eb d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb t\u00eb ndihmoj\u00eb lidhur me ndodhit\u00eb e tua t\u00eb fundit. Kjo do t\u00eb ndihmoje p\u00ebr t\u00eb qart\u00ebsuar gjith\u00e7ka lidhur me ndijimet e tua.
\nLidhur me seksin me nj\u00eb partner m\u00eb t\u00eb ri ose m\u00eb t\u00eb vjet\u00ebr n\u00eb mosh\u00eb, un\u00eb them se k\u00ebtu nuk ka gj\u00eb t\u00eb keqe, po qe se \u00e7do gj\u00eb do ta b\u00ebni me kujdesin dhe me mir\u00ebkuptimin e nj\u00eb t\u00eb rrituri. N\u00eb seksin p\u00ebr nj\u00eb nat\u00eb (q\u00eb shum\u00eb personave televiziv\u00eb u p\u00eblqen ta quajn\u00eb \u201cOne-night-stand\u201d), r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi t\u00eb madhe ka t\u00eb ndjehesh mir\u00eb me veten, me veprimet e tua dhe me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt p\u00ebr rreth. Ka shum\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi t\u00eb ruani veten dhe partnerin nga s\u00ebmundjet seksualisht t\u00eb transmetueshme dhe nga shtatz\u00ebnia e pad\u00ebshirueshme. Nga letrat e shumta q\u00eb marr \u00e7do dit\u00eb n\u00eb blogun \u201cseksologu.com\u201d, un\u00eb e ndjej shqet\u00ebsimin e atyre q\u00eb kan\u00eb kryer marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie p\u00ebr nj\u00eb nat\u00eb. Ata pas marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies rast\u00ebsore, p\u00ebr shum\u00eb koh\u00eb, vuajn\u00eb frik\u00ebn se mos jan\u00eb infektuar
\nSeksi rast\u00ebsor, \u00ebsht\u00eb seks pa lidhje emocionale midis dy partner\u00ebve. Pas k\u00ebsaj marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies t\u00eb shpejt\u00eb, disa duan t\u00eb vazhdojn\u00eb t\u00eb jen\u00eb miq dhe t\u00eb takohen p\u00ebrs\u00ebri. Por, mund t\u00eb lind\u00eb nj\u00eb problem, kur partneri tjet\u00ebr nuk do ta vazhdoje marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien. Kjo mund t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb edhe me ju.. Edhe n\u00eb qofte se ti nuk do t\u00eb duash t\u00eb takohesh m\u00eb me k\u00ebt\u00eb djal\u00eb, ai mund t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb dhe e kund\u00ebrta. Mba mend, seksi p\u00ebr nj\u00eb nat\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb seks i pash\u00ebndetsh\u00ebm. Seksi pasionant plot k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi ndodh kur marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet seksuale kryhen me partner\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebt njihen p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb. Afeksioni reciprok, nxit d\u00ebshir\u00ebn, eksitimin dhe orgasm\u00ebn. \u00cbsht\u00eb mir\u00eb kur ju jeni plot epsh. Por, duhet t\u00eb dini, se seksi rast\u00ebsor \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm epsh. Ai, kurr\u00eb, nuk do t\u2019u b\u00ebj\u00eb juve dy shok\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. Seksi rast\u00ebsor dhe hook-up-et jan\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie pa emocione dhe pa prirje p\u00ebr romanc\u00eb.<\/p>\n

Djali me t\u00eb cilin ju u p\u00ebrfshit\u00eb n\u00eb seks rast\u00ebsor, mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie emocionale me vajza t\u00eb tjera, me t\u00eb cilat takohet rregullisht. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast, ai do t\u00eb ndjehet i shqet\u00ebsuar, sepse vajzat e tjera me t\u00eb cilat ka marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie emocionale e takohet, nuk e din\u00eb q\u00eb ai rast\u00ebsisht nj\u00eb nat\u00eb ishte me ty, dhe k\u00ebt\u00eb lloj seksi p\u00ebr nj\u00eb nat\u00eb ato e konsiderojn\u00eb seks t\u00eb pist\u00eb.<\/p>\n

P\u00ebr deri sa ju b\u00ebt\u00eb seks rast\u00ebsor dhe p\u00ebr deri sa nga anketa n\u00eb www.seksologu.com, rezulton se rreth 40% e t\u00eb rinjve b\u00ebjn\u00eb seks t\u00eb till\u00eb, un\u00eb nuk mund ta konsideroj k\u00ebt\u00eb lloj seksi t\u00eb pist\u00eb, por pa hezitim, them me z\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb: Seksi rast\u00ebsor duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb shum\u00eb i kufizuar.<\/p>\n

Pas asaj marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieje p\u00ebr nj\u00eb nat\u00eb, un\u00eb jam i sigurt\u00eb q\u00eb ju keni menduar dhe keni kuptuar se ka di\u00e7ka tjet\u00ebr tej veprimeve tuaja. Mundohu t\u2019i vler\u00ebsosh ndershm\u00ebrisht ato q\u00eb ndjeve. Mba m\u00ebnd, marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia p\u00ebr nj\u00eb nat\u00eb, n\u00eb vetvete, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb as gabim as e keqe, por ajo q\u00eb ndjeni p\u00ebrpara dhe mbrapa k\u00ebtyre marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve, jan\u00eb me shum\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi dhe duhet t\u00eb vler\u00ebsohen.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

PYETJE: Doktor, Para pak jav\u00ebve u putha me disa djem t\u00eb rinj n\u00eb nj\u00eb klub. Ndjeva se nuk isha e interesuar t\u00eb flirtoja ose t\u00eb bisedoja me ta, por nxitimthi, t\u00eb takoja ndonj\u00ebrin prej tyre. K\u00ebt\u00eb fundjav\u00eb, b\u00ebra seks me nj\u00ebrin prej tyre. Nuk di t\u00eb them pse e b\u00ebra k\u00ebt\u00eb. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[11,15],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3809"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3809"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3809\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3809"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3809"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3809"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}