{"id":3836,"date":"2015-03-27T20:10:29","date_gmt":"2015-03-27T20:10:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/seksologu.com\/index\/?p=3836"},"modified":"2015-03-27T20:10:29","modified_gmt":"2015-03-27T20:10:29","slug":"orientimi-seksual-eshte-proces","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/orientimi-seksual-eshte-proces\/","title":{"rendered":"Orientimi seksual \u00ebsht\u00eb proces"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Pyetje:<\/strong>
\nP\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje doktor!
\nT\u00eb p\u00ebrg\u00ebzoj p\u00ebr sinqeritetin dhe profesionalizmin me t\u00eb cilin i trajton pyetjet tona. Kjo m\u00eb beri edhe m\u00eb t\u00eb sigurt\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00eb shkruaj, pasi \u00ebsht\u00eb hera e par\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u00eb flas hapur p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn dhe problemet e mia dhe m\u00eb beso, e kam shum\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb. . .
\nUn\u00eb jam nj\u00eb djal\u00eb q\u00eb pas disa muajsh b\u00ebj 20 vje\u00e7. Nuk kam patur asnj\u00eb lidhje apo marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie dhe p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb me vjen shum\u00eb keq p\u00ebr veten time. M\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb fiksuar se m\u00eb p\u00eblqejn\u00eb djemt\u00eb dhe kam nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb goxha t\u00eb madhe. E urrej veten time, pavar\u00ebsisht, se un\u00eb NUK KAM ZGJEDHUR T\u00cb JEM I TILL\u00cb. PERPIQEM TE NDRYSHOJ E T\u00cb JEM SA ME AFER NORMALES. Dua t\u00eb kem nj\u00eb lidhje dhe marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie me vajza, pavar\u00ebsisht, ndjenjave te mia, por kam frik\u00eb se marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia seksuale nuk do shkoj\u00eb normalisht, pra do ket\u00eb nd\u00ebrprerje si pasoj\u00eb e mos eksitimit nga vajzat. A jam un\u00eb homoseksual? N\u00eb se po, a mund t\u00eb kthehem n\u00eb normal dhe si?
\nEdhe nj\u00eb her\u00eb t\u00eb fal\u00ebnderoj nga zemra q\u00eb na jepni mund\u00ebsin\u00eb t\u00eb paraqesim problemet tona dhe q\u00eb m\u00eb b\u00ebni t\u00eb ndihem optimist n\u00eb k\u00ebto momente t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira p\u00ebr mua.\u00a0Me shpres\u00ebn se v\u00ebrtet do t\u00eb marr ndihm\u00eb dhe p\u00ebrgjigje nga ju.<\/p>\n

P\u00ebrgjigje:<\/strong><\/p>\n

I dashur djal\u00eb,
\nLetra si kjo e jotja, me shqet\u00ebsime si k\u00ebto t\u00eb tuat, un\u00eb marr shpesh nga djem t\u00eb mosh\u00ebs t\u00ebnde dhe pak\u00ebz m\u00eb t\u00eb rinj. Duke qen\u00eb se \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb problem q\u00eb prek e shqet\u00ebson edhe djem t\u00eb tjer\u00eb, do mundohem ta ndaj pyetjen t\u00ebnde p\u00ebr arsye didaktike n\u00eb disa \u00e7\u00ebshtje. Shpresoj, q\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebto sqarime, ti dhe shok\u00ebt e tu t\u00eb gjeni at\u00eb q\u00eb u duhet, lidhur me ndjenjat homoseksuale.<\/p>\n

1-NGA CFAR\u00cb NDRYSHOJN\u00cb HOMOSEKSUAL\u00cbT, HETEROSEKSUAL\u00cbT DHE BISEKSUAL\u00cbT?<\/p>\n

K\u00ebto terma p\u00ebrshkruajn\u00eb preferencat seksuale dhe zgjedhjen e partner\u00ebve seksual\u00eb, q\u00eb shpesh ne e quajm\u00eb orientimin seksual t\u00eb nj\u00eb personi. Njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb ndjejn\u00eb se t\u00ebrhiqen, ose preferojn\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb seks me njer\u00ebz t\u00eb s\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebs gjini, quhen homoseksual\u00eb. Femrat homoseksuale quhen lesbiane. Meshkujt, sot, zakonisht, quhen gay.<\/p>\n

Heteroseksual\u00ebt t\u00ebrhiqen seksualisht dhe b\u00ebjn\u00eb interkurs\u00eb me persona t\u00eb gjinis\u00eb tjet\u00ebr (meshkuj me femra). Nj\u00eb em\u00ebr tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb p\u00ebrdoret p\u00ebr heteroseksual\u00ebt \u00ebsht\u00eb \u201ct\u00eb drejt\u00eb\u201d. Biseksual\u00ebt jan\u00eb ata q\u00eb t\u00ebrhiqen seksualisht nga persona t\u00eb seksit t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00eb dhe t\u00eb seksit t\u00eb kund\u00ebrt.<\/p>\n

N\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, dallimet midis njer\u00ebzve nuk jan\u00eb kaq t\u00eb qarta, sa e tregojn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb k\u00ebto em\u00ebrtime. Rreth nj\u00eb e kat\u00ebrta e burrave thon\u00eb se kan\u00eb patur eksperienca seksuale me nj\u00eb mashkull tjet\u00ebr, por, vet\u00ebm, nj\u00eb num\u00ebr fare i vog\u00ebl i tyre, e identifikojn\u00eb veten si homoseksual\u00eb.
\nNj\u00eb studim i fundit q\u00eb p\u00ebrdori tre karakteristika: d\u00ebshir\u00ebn seksuale, preferencat seksuale t\u00eb vet\u00eb-raportuara dhe sjelljet seksuale, si tre karakteristika t\u00eb marra s\u00ebbashku p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktuar homoseksualitetin dhe biseksualitetin, tregoi se vet\u00ebm 2.4% e burrave dhe 1.3% e grave jan\u00eb homoseksual\u00eb ose biseksual\u00eb. Po qe se si kriter p\u00ebrdoret vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb nga k\u00ebto karakteristika, at\u00ebher\u00eb, 10.1% e burrave dhe 8.6% e grave kualifikohen si homoseksual\u00eb.<\/p>\n

2-A JAN\u00cb SHTUAR SOT NJER\u00cbZIT ME SJELLJE HOMOSEKSUALE?<\/p>\n

K\u00ebt\u00eb mund ta p\u00ebrmbledhim k\u00ebshtu: N\u00eb periudh\u00ebn midis viteve 1988 dhe 1998 ishin t\u00eb shumt\u00eb ata njer\u00ebz, burra dhe gra, q\u00eb raportuan marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale me partner\u00eb seksual\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtit seks, gjat\u00eb nj\u00eb viti.<\/p>\n

P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb trend ka dy shpjegime q\u00eb kan\u00eb kuptim dhe t\u00eb dyja p\u00ebrfshijn\u00eb rritjen e pranimit shoq\u00ebror p\u00ebr homoseksual\u00ebt :
\nShpjegimi i par\u00eb. Numri i njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb kan\u00eb partner\u00eb me t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin seks mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb rritur nga q\u00eb njer\u00ebzit ndjehen m\u00eb t\u00eb lir\u00eb t\u00eb veprojn\u00eb sipas t\u00ebrheqjes s\u00eb tyre, pra me partner\u00eb me t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin seks.
\nShpjegimi i dyt\u00eb. Numri mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb mbetur po ai, por tani, m\u00eb shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz jan\u00eb t\u00eb gatsh\u00ebm t\u00eb pranojn\u00eb partnershipin me seksin e nj\u00ebjt\u00eb.<\/p>\n

Duhet th\u00ebn\u00eb se, akoma, njer\u00ebzit me preference p\u00ebr seksin e nj\u00ebjt\u00eb, p\u00ebrballen me paragjykime dhe diskriminime. Disa religjione i pranojn\u00eb njer\u00ebzit nj\u00ebsoj, pavar\u00ebsisht, orientimit t\u00eb tyre seksual, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb religjione t\u00eb tjera e d\u00ebnojn\u00eb homoseksualitetin si \u201cjo natyral\u201d si \u201cm\u00ebkat\u201d. N\u00eb nj\u00eb studim t\u00eb sponsorizuar nga organizata politike People for American Way, u d\u00ebshmua se mbi 50 p\u00ebrqind e t\u00eb pyeturve pranuan, se marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet seksuale me an\u00ebtar\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebs gjini, \u201cgjithnj\u00eb jan\u00eb nj\u00eb gj\u00eb e gabuar\u201d. Por, me kalimin e koh\u00ebs, gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz, arrijn\u00eb t\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb biolog\u00ebt e kan\u00eb ditur me shekuj p\u00ebrpara: shprehja seksuale ka shum\u00eb forma t\u00eb ndryshme, midis t\u00eb gjitha qenieve t\u00eb gjalla, p\u00ebrfshi edhe njer\u00ebzit.<\/p>\n

3-SI MUND TA KUPTOJ N\u00cb SE JAM GAY, LESBIANE, BISEKSUAL DHE I DREJT\u00cb?<\/p>\n

Le t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb dy pyetje: A do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se je homoseksual kur t\u00ebrhiqesh seksualisht nga nj\u00eb person me t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin seks? N\u00eb qoft\u00eb se je angazhuar n\u00eb aktivitete seksuale me nj\u00eb partner t\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtit seks, a u b\u00ebn kjo gay ose lesbiane? P\u00ebrgjigjet p\u00ebr k\u00ebto dy pyetje jan\u00eb: Jo, detyrimisht. Orientimi seksual nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb fiks dhe universal. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb i ndrysh\u00ebm n\u00eb vende t\u00eb ndryshme dhe n\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshme.<\/p>\n

Orientimi seksual \u00ebsht\u00eb proces, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb produkt. K\u00ebrkuesja Lisa Diamond intervistoi 80 gra lesbiane, biseksuale dhe t\u00eb pavendosura. Mosha e tyre ishte nga 16 deri 23 vje\u00e7. Ajo bisedoi me grat\u00eb disa her\u00eb p\u00ebr dy vjet. Ajo m\u00ebsoi se, nd\u00ebrsa atraksioni i tyre seksual mbetej thuajse i nj\u00ebjt\u00eb, gjysma e tyre e kishin ndryshuar identitetin seksual t\u00eb cilin e kishin deklaruar m\u00eb par\u00eb. Diamond gjeti se shum\u00eb nga k\u00ebto gra t\u00ebrhiqeshin seksualisht nga t\u00eb dy sekset, por q\u00eb nuk d\u00ebshironin t\u00eb etiketoheshin si biseksuale. Gjysma e k\u00ebtyre grave e kishin ndryshuar identitetin e tyre seksual shum\u00eb her\u00eb. Nj\u00eb e kat\u00ebrta e grave q\u00eb vet\u00eb-identifikoheshin si lesbiane, kishin b\u00ebr\u00eb disa her\u00eb seks me burra, gjat\u00eb periudh\u00ebs s\u00eb studimit.<\/p>\n

Shum\u00eb t\u00eb rinj, q\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqen t\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktojn\u00eb orientimin e tyre seksual, mendojn\u00eb se jan\u00eb vet\u00ebm ata n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb situat\u00eb. Ata ndjehen t\u00eb izoluar nga t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, q\u00eb duken se jan\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb sigurt\u00eb n\u00eb orientimin e tyre heteroseksual. Faktet tregojn\u00eb t\u00eb kund\u00ebrt\u00ebn. Nj\u00eb studim, m\u00eb i fundit n\u00eb Seatle, mblodhi t\u00eb dh\u00ebna nga m\u00eb shum\u00eb se 8.000 gjimnazist\u00eb. Af\u00ebrsisht 5% e konsideronin veten gay, lesbiane, ose biseksual\u00eb. Kat\u00ebr p\u00ebrqind t\u00eb tjer\u00eb than\u00eb se ata nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb sigurt\u00eb. Po t\u2019i mbledhim bashk\u00eb k\u00ebto dy kategori b\u00ebjn\u00eb rreth n\u00ebnt\u00eb p\u00ebrqind, q\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb nj\u00ebri n\u00eb nj\u00ebmb\u00ebdhjet\u00eb nx\u00ebn\u00ebs. Si\u00e7 e shikoni, nuk jan\u00eb kaq shum\u00eb, por nuk jan\u00eb as pak.<\/p>\n

\u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00ebsoj e pranueshme t\u00eb t\u00ebrhiqesh seksualisht nga njer\u00ebz me seks t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00eb, me seks t\u00eb kund\u00ebrt, ose nga t\u00eb dy sekset. Me r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb mos b\u00ebni konkluzione t\u00eb shpejta dhe t\u00eb mos nxitoni ta etiketoni veten tuaj. Shpejt, duke u rritur gjat\u00eb adoleshenc\u00ebs, p\u00ebr secilin nga ju, do t\u00eb vij\u00eb momenti q\u00eb identiteti seksual do t\u00eb ul\u00ebrij\u00eb. Ju, krejt normalisht dhe leht\u00ebsisht, do t\u00eb kuptoni \u00e7far\u00eb jeni. Por, po qe se sot, ju ndjeheni n\u00eb ankth ose me faj, mos prisni deri sa t\u00eb d\u00ebgjoni trupin t\u2019u ul\u00ebrij\u00eb. Ju b\u00ebni mir\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb, t\u00eb bisedoni me nj\u00eb t\u00eb rritur q\u00eb ju i besoni, si\u00e7 mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00ebri nga prind\u00ebrit, nj\u00eb k\u00ebshillues, nj\u00eb m\u00ebsues ose nj\u00eb doktor. K\u00ebta miq dhe t\u00eb besuar, do t\u2019u ndihmojn\u00eb t\u00eb kuptoni seksualitetin tuaj, pa u ndjer\u00eb ju t\u00eb turp\u00ebruar dhe t\u00eb trembur.<\/p>\n

N\u00eb qoft\u00eb se m\u00eb von\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb, kur ju ta keni vendosur se jeni homoseksual ose biseksual, ju duhet t\u00eb jeni t\u00eb aft\u00eb ta njoftoni k\u00ebt\u00eb hapur pa frik\u00ebn se miqt\u00eb, shok\u00ebt, bashk\u00ebpun\u00ebtor\u00ebt dhe familjar\u00ebt do t\u2019u paragjykojn\u00eb. Un\u00eb e di q\u00eb ky pranim nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithnj\u00eb i leht\u00eb. Shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz,akoma, e shikojn\u00eb homoseksualitetin ose biseksualitetin si jo natyral dhe t\u00eb gabuar. Por, vet\u00ebm duke u p\u00ebrballur me sfidat, ne do t\u00eb krijojm\u00eb nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri q\u00eb pranon dhe mb\u00ebshtet seksualitetit human n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha format e saj.<\/p>\n

Nga sa thash\u00eb m\u00eb sip\u00ebr, kuptohet se t\u00eb gjitha format e orientimit seksual jan\u00eb t\u00eb pranueshme n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb barabart\u00eb. Prej k\u00ebtej lind konkluzioni: askush nuk ka pse t\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb krenar se t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt p\u00ebr orientimin e tij seksual dhe se nuk ka arsye ta demonstroj\u00eb n\u00eb \u201cparada krenarie\u201d orientimin e tij seksual. T\u00eb gjith\u00eb jemi t\u00eb barabart\u00eb.<\/p>\n

4-PYETJE: N\u00cb SE D\u00cbSHIROJN\u00cb, A MUND T\u00cb B\u00cbHEN HOMOSEKSUAL\u00cbT T\u00cb DREJT\u00cb?<\/p>\n

Po qe se k\u00ebt\u00eb pyetje e b\u00ebni n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb publike, ju gjithmon\u00eb do t\u00eb merrni njw p\u00ebrgjigje disaprovuese. P\u00ebrgjigja nga American Psichological Association dhe American Psychiatric Association \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb \u201cJo\u201d shum\u00eb e madhe. Homoseksualiteti nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb s\u00ebmundje dhe ai nuk ka nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr mjekim. Po ashtu, homoseksualiteti nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb vendim konshient, q\u00eb duhet ose mund t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb.<\/p>\n

Qeniet njer\u00ebzore nuk mund t\u00eb zgjedhin vet\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb gay ose t\u00eb drejt\u00eb. P\u00ebr shumic\u00ebn e njer\u00ebzve, orientimi seksual ndihet q\u00eb n\u00eb adoleshenc\u00ebn e hershme, kur t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb e t\u00eb rejat, akoma, nuk kan\u00eb patur eksperienca seksuale. Nd\u00ebrkaq, \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb vullnetin e gjithkujt t\u00eb zgjedh\u00eb n\u00eb se do t\u00eb veprojm\u00eb sipas ndjenjave q\u00eb ka. Ashtu si\u00e7 ka homoseksual\u00eb q\u00eb zgjedhin t\u00eb mos b\u00ebjn\u00eb kurr\u00eb seks, ashtu mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb edhe homoseksual\u00eb q\u00eb mund t\u00eb zgjedhin t\u00eb mos b\u00ebjn\u00eb kurr\u00eb seks. Por nj\u00eb gj\u00eb duhet kuptuar mir\u00eb, se orientimi seksual, i cil\u00ebs do natyr\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb ai, hetero ose homoseksual, ai nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb zgjedhje e nd\u00ebrgjegjshme, q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ndryshohet me vullnet.<\/p>\n

Ka disa organizata dhe individ\u00eb q\u00eb thon\u00eb e zotohen se jan\u00eb t\u00eb aft\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshojn\u00eb gay-t\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb drejt\u00eb. Terapit\u00eb e \u201cRiorientimit\u201d, \u201crregullimit\u201d ose \u201ckonversionit\u201d, q\u00eb ofrojn\u00eb predikues dhe grupe konsulent\u00ebsh, duket se nuk jan\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb suksesshme. Nd\u00ebrkaq, shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz, (dhjet\u00ebra t\u00eb rinj m\u00eb jan\u00eb drejtuar me letra n\u00eb blog) duan ta ndryshojn\u00eb orientimin e tyre homoseksual n\u00eb heteroseksual. Disa e k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb ndryshim sepse ndjejn\u00eb q\u00eb orientimi i tyre seksual \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb konflikt me fen\u00eb e tyre. T\u00eb tjer\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb stresuar emocionalisht nga ndjenjat homoseksuale. Ata ndjejn\u00eb se e kan\u00eb jasht\u00eb kontrollit jet\u00ebn e tyre.<\/p>\n

Edhe pse t\u00eb dh\u00ebnat shkencore p\u00ebr \u201criorientimin\u201d jan\u00eb t\u00eb pakta, d\u00ebshmit\u00eb nga ex-gay-t\u00eb, ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb, tregojn\u00eb se riorientimi \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb me sukses. E v\u00ebrteta \u00ebsht\u00eb se terapia n\u00eb grup, q\u00eb b\u00ebhet p\u00ebr \u201criorientimin seksual\u201d, \u2026u ofron pjes\u00ebmarr\u00ebsve nj\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb, gjat\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebs ata nuk b\u00ebjn\u00eb seks homoseksual. Gjat\u00eb k\u00ebsaj koh\u00eb q\u00eb ata jan\u00eb n\u00eb terapi, kan\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb mendojn\u00eb m\u00eb qart\u00eb p\u00ebr orientimin e tyre seksual. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb konsiderohet pjesa m\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme e procesit t\u00eb sh\u00ebrimit.<\/p>\n

Sipas Associationit Psychiatric American, terapia reparative ka shum\u00eb rreziqe potenciale, si\u00e7 jan\u00eb: depresioni, ankthi, dhe sjellje vet\u00eb-shkat\u00ebrruese. Profesionist\u00ebt e sh\u00ebndetit mendor mendojn\u00eb, se p\u00ebrpjekjet p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndryshuar orientimin seksual mund t\u00eb ndezin vet\u00eb-urrejtjen ose p\u00ebrforcojn\u00eb paragjykimet sociale kund\u00ebr homoseksualitetit. \u201cNuk ka asnj\u00eb evidenc\u00eb shkencore t\u00eb publikuar q\u00eb t\u00eb mb\u00ebshtes\u00eb efikasitetin e terapis\u00eb \u201creparative\u201d, si nj\u00eb mjekim p\u00ebr ndryshimin e orientimit seksual t\u00eb nj\u00eb personi\u201d deklaroi Associationi i psikiatrave n\u00eb vitin 1998<\/p>\n

Tre vjet m\u00eb von\u00eb, Robert Spitzer nj\u00eb psikiat\u00ebr n\u00eb Columbia University, i cili n\u00eb vitin 1972 kryesonte komisionin e psikiatrave q\u00eb hoq\u00ebn nga lista e s\u00ebmundjeve psikike homoseksualitetin, prezantoi t\u00eb dh\u00ebnat q\u00eb e v\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb dyshim pik\u00ebpamjen e m\u00eb sip\u00ebrme. Spitzer intervistoi 200 njer\u00ebz q\u00eb thoshin se nj\u00ebher\u00eb kan\u00eb qen\u00eb homoseksual\u00eb, por q\u00eb kan\u00eb ndryshuar p\u00ebr arsye t\u00eb terapis\u00eb s\u00eb \u201cconversionit\u201d. Rreth dy t\u00eb tretat e burrave dhe thuajse gjysma e grave raportuan, se pas terapis\u00eb, si kurr\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb, ata nuk e ndjenin atraksionin homoseksual. Disa t\u00eb tjer\u00eb, t\u00eb cil\u00ebve nuk u kishte ndryshuar orientimi seksual, hoq\u00ebn dor\u00eb nga sjellja homoseksuale dhe than\u00eb se ndjehen m\u00eb mir\u00eb emocionalisht.\u201d<\/p>\n

Spenzerit, i u desh\u00ebn gjasht\u00ebmb\u00ebdhjet\u00eb muaj q\u00eb t\u2019i gjente subjektet e studimit t\u00eb tij , t\u00eb cil\u00ebt i rekrutoi, kryesisht, n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet organizatave religjioze. Ai beson se rezultatet pozitive t\u00eb konverzionit jan\u00eb t\u00eb rralla dhe deklaron: \u201cUn\u00eb nuk e b\u00ebj k\u00ebt\u00eb lloj terapie, dhe jam skeptik lidhur me rezultatet e saj\u201d. Ai kund\u00ebrshton presionin ndaj gay-ve dhe lesbianeve, por, ai mendon se gay-t\u00eb dhe lesbianet \u201cduhet t\u00eb ken\u00eb t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn t\u00eb eksplorojn\u00eb edhe potencialin e tyre heteroseksual\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Pyetje: P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje doktor! T\u00eb p\u00ebrg\u00ebzoj p\u00ebr sinqeritetin dhe profesionalizmin me t\u00eb cilin i trajton pyetjet tona. Kjo m\u00eb beri edhe m\u00eb t\u00eb sigurt\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00eb shkruaj, pasi \u00ebsht\u00eb hera e par\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u00eb flas hapur p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn dhe problemet e mia dhe m\u00eb beso, e kam shum\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb. . . Un\u00eb jam nj\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[41,11,19],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3836"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3836"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3836\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3836"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3836"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3836"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}