{"id":3847,"date":"2013-04-05T18:11:44","date_gmt":"2013-04-05T18:11:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/seksologu.com\/index\/?p=3847"},"modified":"2013-04-05T18:11:44","modified_gmt":"2013-04-05T18:11:44","slug":"nuk-ndihem-mire-me-trupin-tim","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/nuk-ndihem-mire-me-trupin-tim\/","title":{"rendered":"Nuk ndihem mire me trupin tim"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><strong><a href=\"http:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/shy-3-1.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-3848\" style=\"margin: 4px;\" title=\"shy\" src=\"http:\/\/www.asel.co\/seksologu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/shy-3-150x150.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" \/><\/a>Pyetje:<\/strong><br \/>\nDoktor,\u00a0Kam dy vjet qe jam njohur me dashnorin tim. Ai vazhdimisht m\u00eb b\u00ebn komplimenta dhe sillet shum\u00eb mir\u00eb me mua. Problemi im \u00ebsht\u00eb se ndjehem jo mir\u00eb t\u00eb zhvishem e t\u00eb vesh t\u00eb brendshme seksi para tij. Kur shikohem n\u00eb pasqyr\u00eb, kudo shikoj dhjam\u00eb n\u00eb trupin tim. D\u00ebsh\u00ebroj shum\u00eb t\u00eb vesh t\u00eb brendshme seksi p\u00ebr t\u00eb dashurin tim dhe t\u00eb ndjehem mir\u00eb me veten, por nuk mundem. \u00c7far\u00eb m\u00eb k\u00ebshilloni t\u00eb b\u00ebj?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><strong>P\u00ebrgjigje:<\/strong><br \/>\nLoja me sende seksi p\u00ebr t\u00eb joshur dashnorin, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsit\u00eb kur je n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie dashurie. Kjo dhe fakti q\u00eb dashnori t\u00eb b\u00ebn komplimenta, tregon se marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb e fort\u00eb. Por, komplimentet e tij mund t\u00eb mos jen\u00eb plot\u00ebsisht t\u00eb v\u00ebrteta. Fjal\u00ebt e mira q\u00eb na thon\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, duhen ti pranoj\u00eb jo vet\u00ebm mendja, por t\u2019u besojn\u00eb edhe disa pjes\u00eb t\u00eb trupit. A ke v\u00ebn\u00eb re \u00e7far\u00eb ndj\u00ebn ti kur ai t\u00eb b\u00ebn komplimenta? A e ndjen se t\u00eb p\u00eblqejn\u00eb dhe u beson komenteve t\u00eb tij positive lidhur me dukejen t\u00ebnde t\u00eb jashtme?<br \/>\nKa mund\u00ebsi q\u00eb ti ke vler\u00ebsim t\u00eb ul\u00ebt p\u00ebr veten, ose vler\u00ebsim negativ p\u00ebr dukjen t\u00ebnde edhe tej situatave intime, n\u00eb jet\u00ebn t\u00ebnde t\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme. Po qe se \u00ebsht\u00eb k\u00ebshtu, at\u00ebher\u00eb, problemi \u00ebsht\u00eb ndryshe. Sot, si kudo n\u00eb bot\u00eb, edhe tek ne, t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb jetojn\u00eb brenda nj\u00eb kulture ku imazhi i bukuris\u00eb femrore p\u00ebrmblidhet, kryesisht, tek t\u00eb qenurit gra t\u00eb holla. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb e p\u00ebrgjithshme. Sot, \u00e7do f\u00ebmij\u00eb, mund t\u00eb thot\u00eb se si duhet t\u00eb duket \u201cnj\u00eb grua ideale\u201d. Por, duhet t\u00eb dish, se vet\u00ebm fare pak gra, e arrijn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb standard, q\u00eb duhet ta themi, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb universal.<br \/>\nShum\u00eb njer\u00ebz marrin mesazhe negative nga vetia e tyre. K\u00ebto mesazhe nuk fillojn\u00eb nga vet\u00eb ata. Ato jan\u00eb z\u00ebri i shoqeve t\u00eb tyre, t\u00eb familjar\u00ebve, t\u00eb televizor\u00ebve, t\u00eb revistave dhe reklamave n\u00eb billboardet. Ato jan\u00eb z\u00ebri i q\u00eb vjen nga shum\u00eb imazhe q\u00eb prodhojn\u00eb massmediet lidhur me bukurin\u00eb ideale , specifike, dhe t\u00eb stadnartizuar. Sapo nj\u00eb person i pranon brenda vetes (internalizon) ndjesi negative p\u00ebr veten, p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb person b\u00ebhet shum\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u201di largoj\u00eb ato ndjesi, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht, kur ato jan\u00eb ngulur shum\u00eb koh\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb.<br \/>\nTani ti d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb dish se \u00e7far\u00eb duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebsh p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb?<br \/>\nB\u00ebhu m\u00eb e m\u00ebncur. Shum\u00eb psikolog\u00eb mendojn\u00eb se vuajtja mund t\u00eb largohet p\u00ebrmes mpreht\u00ebsis\u00eb s\u00eb mendimit. Ju duhet t\u00eb kuptoni burrimin e shqet\u00ebsimit tuaj, m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn si duhet t\u00eb veproni n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb situat\u00eb. Ju duhet t\u00eb kuptoni m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn si influencon vler\u00ebsimi i ul\u00ebt i vetes, mbi t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. Sqarimi i k\u00ebtyre gj\u00ebrave brenda vetes, do t\u00eb ndihmojn\u00eb t\u00eb kuptosh kur kan\u00eb lindur k\u00ebto ndiesi vet\u00eb-n\u00ebnvleft\u00ebsuese. Psikolog\u00ebt mendojn\u00eb, se njer\u00ebzit \u00e7lirohen nga mendimet negative, kur i analizojn\u00eb k\u00ebto situate q\u00eb nga koha kur ato kan\u00eb lindur. Ju do t\u00eb kuptoni se vler\u00ebsimi negativ p\u00ebr veten e ka origjin\u00ebn jasht\u00eb jush dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb i gabuar. B\u00ebhu aq e m\u00ebn\u00e7ur sa t\u00eb kuptosh v\u00ebrtet se si t\u00eb shohin t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. Duke b\u00ebr\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb analiz\u00eb, ti do t\u00eb kuptosh se perceptimi negativ p\u00ebr veten, ka qen\u00eb krejt\u00ebsisht e gabuar..<br \/>\nNdrysho mendimet e shtremb\u00ebra. Ka nj\u00eb terapia q\u00eb quhet \u201ccognitive behaviorale\u201d. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn psikoterapisti arrin t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb tek ju mendimin e shtr\u00ebmb\u00ebruar, ose vler\u00ebsimin e gabuar p\u00ebr veten dhe p\u00ebr dukjen tuaj. Takimi me nj\u00eb psikolog \u00ebsht\u00eb i dobish\u00ebm, kur shqet\u00ebsimet jan\u00eb t\u00eb theksuara.<br \/>\nNdrysho emocionet. \u00c7far\u00eb ndiesi provon kur zhvisheni? A ndjen ankth? Turp? Frik\u00eb?. \u00c7far\u00eb emocionesh provon kur e imagjinon veten te veshur me di\u00e7ka seksi p\u00ebr dashnorin t\u00ebnd? P\u00ebrpiquni t\u00eb kuptoni emocionet q\u00eb ndjeni kur dashnori u b\u00ebn komplimenta. A ndjehesh e lumtur? E bezdisur? Dyshuese? Terapia do t\u2019u ndihmoj\u00eb t\u00eb zbuloni disa nga k\u00ebto emocione dhe se si t\u2019i ndryshoni ato. Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb, vler\u00ebsimi negative p\u00ebr veten, \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb i fort\u00eb jo vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr gj\u00ebndjen emocionale, por ai zot\u00ebron edhe gjith\u00eb mendimin e personit.<br \/>\nP\u00ebrpiqu t\u2019i neglizhosh k\u00ebto ndjesi. Disa psikolog\u00eb besojn\u00eb se duke ndryshuar sjelljet me vullnet mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhesh m\u00eb mir\u00eb. P\u00ebrpiqu t\u00eb b\u00ebsh gj\u00ebrat q\u00eb d\u00ebshiron. Kjo do t\u2019u \u201cdesensitizoj\u00eb\u201d, q\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se me koh\u00eb ndjesit\u00eb negative do t\u00eb b\u00ebhen m\u00eb t\u00eb dobta dhe mund t\u00eb z\u00ebvend\u00ebsohen me ndijesi positive.<br \/>\nKa shum\u00eb literatur\u00eb p\u00ebr imazhin e trupit dhe vet\u00eb-besimin. Po t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoni mund t\u00eb gjeni shum\u00eb nga k\u00ebto materiale. Konsultimi me nj\u00eb psikolog do t\u00eb ishte i vlefsh\u00ebm.<br \/>\nSh\u00ebndet e fat<br \/>\nDoktori.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Pyetje: Doktor,\u00a0Kam dy vjet qe jam njohur me dashnorin tim. Ai vazhdimisht m\u00eb b\u00ebn komplimenta dhe sillet shum\u00eb mir\u00eb me mua. Problemi im \u00ebsht\u00eb se ndjehem jo mir\u00eb t\u00eb zhvishem e t\u00eb vesh t\u00eb brendshme seksi para tij. Kur shikohem n\u00eb pasqyr\u00eb, kudo shikoj dhjam\u00eb n\u00eb trupin tim. D\u00ebsh\u00ebroj shum\u00eb t\u00eb vesh t\u00eb brendshme seksi [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[11,24],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3847"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3847"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3847\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3847"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3847"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seksologu.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3847"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}